HOW TO CREATE HARMONY AMONG SIBLINGS WHO ARE ALWAYS FIGHTING

Child upbringing is one of the hardest tasks any parent can undertake and yet it is an automatic role that should be undertaken. Children are born with different characters and so it becomes hard to deal with them, especially when it comes to issues of temperaments. Never the less, parents, aunties, guardians, caretakers etc shouldn't watch their children fight all because they think they are just young. What begins during childhood can end up a huge conflict during adulthood

Encourage your children to pray. When we seek God, he makes peace reign in our relationships. If the relationship between your children is straying, one of the best steps you can take is teach them how to pray. In the Bible Jesus says let the little children come to me; that means that the Kingdom of God loves children and God answers their prayers. Teach your children to pray together, you will be amazed at the harmony God will instill in their lives. Character shaping without God being involved is null

Instill discipline

Sparing the child doesn't amount to anything but a spoilt brat. If a child is hitting a sibling for no reason, or uttering abusive words, its not time to watch but utter a strong warning; put her on time out, she will feel it and realize it's bad, next time she will treat the sibling nicely.

Encourage sharing. 

If it is a toy being fought for, allocate each one minutes to use. That kind of training teaches children that every body matters.

Talk to your children

Children sometimes need to be talked to like adults; tell your children that it is bad to fight, encourage them to love each other, tell them the dangers of fighting and the benefits of harmony, you will be surprised at how they will understand and peace will rain

Have rules in your home

A home is like an institution and institutions must have rules. Set rules in your home with corresponding punishments so that your children are aware of the effects of their actions. 

Some of the rules can include

• No fighting
• Treat others the way you want to be treated
• Listen
• Be the sibling you wish you had

Teach your children to apologize. Saying sorry starts with the parent. If you made a promise to your child and didn't fulfil, saying sorry is very important. Your child will learn that when she offends someone, they have to say sorry. Apologizing creates harmony among children

Reduce points that cause conflicts

If children are fighting over who does house chores, make a chore chart. Each child will know when to work. if the fighting is about tidying up a shared bedroom, allocate each child a task. This way there will be no room for conflict.

Reward good behavior

Point out when the children are in good terms, appreciate them for it; this will encourage them to create more harmony with each other

Encourage positivity.

Children who always fight with each other have a habit of focusing on only the negative side of their siblings. Point out the positive side of each of them. At least they will learn that their siblings are not bad at all

Raising children is not an easy task, but with the above points, you get to keep the years going.